We had a new friend stay with us for a couple of weeks back in late October-early November. Her foster family was going out of the country so I provided respite for her.
Perdon (Spanish for "excuse me," because that is how she started EVERY question... and she was very similar to Evie and asked A LOT of them) was five years old (actually just two months older than Evie - who just turned seven BTW! - was when she left here). She apparently had been moved from her first foster home to her current one due to behavioral issues, but I did not have any problems at all while she was here. Current foster mom also said she doesn't have any issues, other than Perdon lying.
The night before I was going to pick her up, I met up with her and her foster family to get her things, and also so that a stranger would not be picking her up from school the next day. At that point, I learned that there was a six-year old and twelve-year old who would be going to stay at a group home while the foster family was gone, since there were no other families that could provide respite. I very strongly considered taking the six-year old as well. I don't have space, and I knew it would be chaotic, but I hated the thought of a six-year old having to go to a group home! However, when I asked the foster mom if she would be okay with Elmer, the mom said, "Well, you will have to watch her constantly and you will need to let him sleep in your room" because she had a history of sexual abuse and the foster mom was not sure how she would act. That tipped the scale to the "No" side.
Perdon loved Elmer, and Elmer loved having someone to play with. It was nice that when we walked in the door from daycare, I could get dinner ready (usually just cut up and heated up) without a baby hanging on my leg and crying, since he had someone to entertain him.
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